When we remind ourselves of the light that lies on the other side of this experience, we remind ourselves not to run away. We remind ourselves to work through.
BEGINNING WITHIN PODCAST
The Beginning Within Podcast is all about repeatedly asking ourselves the one question that always matters, “What can I do about this situation?” Beginning within is about changing the one person we can change. Beginning within is about learning that by transforming ourselves we transform the world.
One doesn’t become a student by simply reading a book or listening to a lecture. One must come with an open mind, with complete dedication to understanding the idea being taught, without judgment or fear. Before doing so, one must ensure that the teacher and content are coming from a safe place which doesn’t contradict their values and beliefs.
Slow and consistent is what produces great things, not through experiencing a stroke of luck.
They say that the meaning of intimacy is in the word itself. Intimacy, Into Me See. Intimacy is very valuable, in part, because it’s hard to find. In truth, you can’t really find it, you’ve got to create it.
As humans, this is our unique gift, the ability to let go and have faith. Not to live at the mercy of our intellect, confined to the limitations of what we can prove and understand but to step into a far more expansive dimension which offers us wonderful opportunity and blessing.
We must look deep within and ask whether we are ready to harness the system and drive it. Otherwise, the system drives us, and our potential lies dormant.
Loyalty doesn’t mean accepting blame for another, that is, when they’re another. When we’re on a team and we are one, their mistake isn’t another’s, it’s ours and we cover for them. This is true for marriage, parenting, and business.
Airplanes don’t fly straight. They are constantly realigning. From time to time we must observe the direction we are moving in, stop for a moment, assess and realign.
When you judge yourself you judge others. When you accept yourself you accept others. This is why you must begin with yourself!
Joy is synonymous with boundless. The power of letting go is entering a state of joy!
Dancing is one of those areas where we can often see how much resistance we have to comfortably expressing ourselves.
In this deeply insightful interview with Rabbi Manis Friedman of http://www.itsgoodtoknow.org/, we discuss identifying our core challenge as well as one thing you can do to improve your relationships. This is part 1 of a 2 part interview. Enjoy!
In part 2 of this deeply insightful interview with Rabbi Manis Friedman of http://www.itsgoodtoknow.org/, we discuss the one thing children need more than anything else from their parents and whether there is a value in pursuing spirituality. This is part 2 of a 2 part interview. Enjoy!
Often, being right is so wrong. Approaching relationships through the paradigm of right and wrong is often destructive. There is a deeper value we must be focused on, getting along.
Imagine going through your entire life and never finding the courage to show up as the real you. This is my fear. Real courage is taking off our masks, not putting them on.
The more we resist something the more it persists. What we must come to realize is that behind our resistance is everything we’re looking for. We only need to find the courage to stop resisting. Instead of thinking you’re right, begin asking, “How do you know you’re right?”
Genuine encouragement is a rare commodity. Learning to provide it is highly valuable. Truly standing by another’s side in their time of need isn’t accomplished verbally. It’s accomplished by actually being there for the other.
We all tell ourselves that if only … our lives would be much better. What is your if only? Will you let that lead your life, trying to get that if only? Or will you realize what you do have and what you’ve been endowed with and bring that to fruition?
Responding to sexual harassment with repercussions is too little, too late. If one person has already been violated we’ve responded too late. We must prevent the violations from happening in the first place. We can do this if we’re ready to change the social norms we’ve become accustomed to. Our human weaknesses need stronger boundaries to protect ourselves.
“What is your primary reason for wanting to do this?” This vital question will let you know if what you’re about to begin will serve you well or not. Often, we confuse our primary purpose with a secondary one and the implications can be costly.
Don’t focus on the dark. Learning how to be the light in any given situation. The light will automatically dispel the darkness. How can you be the light? By having a perspective that enlightens the situation.
How much effort does it take to be cynical? Hardly any. How much effort does it take to trust? A lot. Cynicism is easy and destructive. Trust is difficult and constructive.
We all struggle with keeping our resolutions. Learn the secret to becoming more committed to your resolutions.
With everything that happens in life, we can choose how we experience the event or we can let the event determine our experience.
This is powerful! While the objective event will remain the same, our experience of the event is a choice we make!
Have you ever caught yourself saying, “This is not what I signed up for.” This statement comes from a perspective of entitlement. The more we embrace a life of responsibility over a life of rights, the happier we become.
Trying to warm up the outside world on a freezing cold day would be very foolish. Warming ourselves would be the wise thing to do. Trying to change someone else is just as foolish. Changing ourselves would be the wise thing to do.
We have all been violated after sharing a piece of our inner world. We must not let that stop us from sharing our true selves with others. This is the only path to deep and meaningful relationships.
Optimism isn’t a fantasy hope for a better future. Optimism must be grounded in the reality of your circumstances. US Navy Admiral Jim Stockdale taught this in what has come to be called The Stockton Paradox.
“We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.”
What we see in sports players are individuals who refuse to play it small. There’s a deep yearning within each and everyone one of us to do the same.
There is a simple thing you can do to turn around your marriage. You can even do it without your spouse’s participation. Yes, it feels magical and works wonders.
The only thing between our current reality and a more expansive one is a thin veneer. It looks fearfully large and intimidating. Yet, it is nothing more than a veneer.
Discipline is one of the greatest gifts we can give our children. As long as it’s given lovingly. Don’t shy away from creating rules, responsibilities, and structure. Do make sure you do so from a place of love, not negative emotion.
When our relationship with another, with our religion or with G-d is shutting us down and not expanding us, it’s an unhealthy relationship.
The difference between an issue and non-issue person is one thing. What is the objective? The issue person always makes themselves the objective. The non-issue person remains focused on the true objective.
Two stories demonstrate how the choice is in our hands as to whether our circumstances will define our reality or whether we will define our circumstances. It’s the difference between enslavement and freedom.
There are those things we want and the things wanted from us. Liberating ourselves from the servitude to our wants frees us to be dedicated to what is wanted from us.
Problems are easy to point out. No genius there. Do you have a solution? That’s where the genius is. Practice being a source for solutions, for uplifting and for light. Look forward as to how it should be done, not backward as to how it was done.
Some say the letter Y is a crooked later, a cute way of shutting down the question, why. I say that why has straightened many a crooked path. Asking why, questioning our answer and once again questioning our next answer is a very clarifying process.
There’s only one person you need to influence and lead. Yourself! We follow you because of who you are, not because of what you tell us to do.
There’s a simple way to get more of what we want. Focus on it. This always works because what we focus on grows.
Trendy and hip platitudes have a strong pull but they aren’t always accurate. People like talking about the universe supporting them. Does the universe have consciousness or free choice? It’s authentic confidence based on a reliable source that supports us, not the universe.
It is worth asking ourselves whether what we’re about to say or do is dignified or not. If it isn’t, we probably shouldn’t say or do it. Acting without dignity is not a sign of authenticity and realness. It’s a lack of respect and unwillingness to control our instinctual selves. We must pursue dignity.
We all live in a paradigm. When something challenges our paradigm, it offers us an opportunity, to learn a new paradigm or be more resolute in our current one. Only the liberal-minded have the courage to take a close look.
We are expected to seek refinement. The way G-d created us demonstrates that. Refinement is a soulful life in a body as opposed to a bodily life with a soul.
There are tremendous benefits to stepping out of our subjective perspective and seeing how our world looks through objective eyes. There are also tremendous fears of accepting an uncomfortable new perspective. This is how growth happens!
If there’s one thing that is most detrimental to humanity, it may just be judgment. Most of us will acknowledge that we’re still trying to overcome the judgments we received from others. Wouldn’t it be worthwhile to practice minimizing our judgments on others?
One should not be embarrassed when confronted by scoffers. Learn this and you’ll become one powerful person. To be different, not to fit the norm, is a great fear that holds us back so often. That’s why you should practice being different.
Did you ever notice how the very thing you love about someone you sometimes can’t stand? The funny thing is that the pros and cons are two sides of the same coin. Remember, this very same issue you’re frustrated about is the very same source of their beauty which you love.
Do you have a long list of wants? Would it be nice to have them or must you have them? Only when your “want” turns into a “must” do you get it. It is then that you’re truly committed to doing everything to get it. So you see, it is you who prevents your wants from being actualized and it is only you can bring them to actualization.
If you don’t know where you’re going, you’ll never get there. Defining a successful life is imperative if we want to lead one. It may be the most important first step to leading a successful life. My definition is, narrowing the gap between who we see ourselves as and who we are.