What we need to remember is that in the accident and mistake our loved one makes lies our greatest opportunity to strengthen our relationship. It is there that we show our true colors. If we can embrace then, they feel a love they’ve most likely been looking for all their life.
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If you truly loved the fish, you wouldn’t be eating it. You’d let it swim in the river. You probably mean that you love yourself.
That’s what we should say it. You’re not in the mood to make your bed? So what? You’re not in the mood to smile, come out of your room when you’re prepared to smile.
When I accept and celebrate my uniqueness, I celebrate the uniqueness I see in others. When I don’t accept and celebrate my uniqueness, this leads to me discriminating against others.
When we don’t understand another person’s perspective, we can either see it as their issue or as our issue. Remember the saying, “Judging another person doesn’t define who they are, it defines who you are.”
I’m here to tell you in no uncertain terms that guilt is destructive. Period. You should do everything possible not to feel guilt and you should not be using it to motivate people to do what you feel they should do.
What we must learn to develop more than anything else is the truest expression of who we are, our SQ, our soul quotient. Yes, we need to let it shine!
We must develop a long sighted vision for our lives and realize that the price we pay when we choose the shorter longer way is enormous. I would say that the price is crushing.
We live in a polarized universe. This is why everything needs balance. Our psyche is the exact same way. Our psyche is polarized. A proper balance between love and respect keeps us and our relationship well-balanced and stable.
Even if there was a way to protect ourselves or our children from challenges, it wouldn't serve us or them well. Why? For the very reason, we all know intuitively. Without challenges, we don't develop and grow.
The primary reason we don’t stand out from the herd is because of a fear. A fear that we might fail, a fear that we might not be accepted, a fear that we will be criticized. It is true that it’s always much safer not to stand out than it is standing apart. The number one regret that people have on their death bed is, “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me."
The key to remember is two things: Respond to the person, not the problem. Labeling positives reinforce them, labeling negatives diminish them.