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What’s the first thing you do when you see a flaw in another? Whether it’s your spouse, your child, a good friend or an employee.
Do make sure to point it out so you help them change?
Do you control yourself from saying anything until it hits the fan?
Do you tell everyone except for them about their flaw?
Or do you look in the mirror? What!? What do you mean?
The great mystic and spiritual leader, the Baal Shem Tov, explained how everything we see in others is truly a reflection of ourselves. This is not to say that the other person doesn’t have this flaw and this is to say that the primary purpose for you seeing their flaw is for you, not for them.
The world around us is like a mirror, it continuously reflects back to us how we look. You can deflect and make it about them or you can reflect and make it about you. But, you say. But, you say. And the Baal Shem Tov says, but it’s about you, not about them. Look within yourself, not within them.
I prefer to simply call it Beginning Within.
Karin S says
What if I am more critical of myself, than anyone else?
Rabbi Aryeh Weinstein says
Great question! Being critical of oneself can very often be destructive. Being aware and observant oneself is a more positive approach. When we can look at ourselves honestly, without judgment, then we are in a position to change.